My love language embodies simplicity. Start with a simple text just to say I love you. Wash my car because it’s dirty and you know I won’t wash it. Plan a surprise trip to the beach to watch the sunset because that is one of my favorite things to do. Cook dinner because food is life (and if you clean up afterwards, I will love you forever plus another day). Purchase an orchid just because you know that’s my favorite plant. Cuddle with me right before I fall asleep because you know I love being in your arms.
A sweet tender touch
Fills my heart with so much love
You speak my language
Performing any of those effortless acts reveals to me that my partner understands my heart and he understands that the simple things are the most important in our relationship.
These modest acts are usually the most memorable parts of any relationship. It doesn’t take a whole lot of effort to speak someone’s love language. Speaking your partner’s love language involves performing the acts or doing things that cost little to no money, but they are absolutely priceless.
According to Dr. Gary Chapman, author of The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate, love language is defined as how we receive love from others.
He describes the 5 love languages as follow:
- Words of Affirmation — Simply saying words that shows your partner that you support and love them.
- Acts of Service — Doing helpful things for your partner.
- Receiving Gifts — Giving your partner a thoughtful or unexpected gift.
- Quality Time — Making an effort to spend meaningful time with your partner.
- Physical Contact — Frequently cuddling or caressing your partner
Love languages are not one size fits all. They vary by person and by relationship and are not limited to romantic relationships. You can use love languages with family members, your kids, as well as in your friendships. However, the concept is most commonly used in romantic relationships.
“Once you identify and learn to speak your spouse’s primary love language, I believe that you will have discovered the key to a long-lasting, loving marriage.” ~ Dr. Gary Chapman
In order to discover your partner’s love language, all you need to do is listen and pay attention. Speaking your partner’s love language can create a firm foundation in any relationship. Love language also shows your partner that you’re engaged and committed to the relationship. I recently read a story by Mary DeVries about the best gift she received from her husband. It was the simplest gift, but the gift spoke her love language and that simple gift has remained a memorable moment in her relationship. You can read more here:
We all have different ways of expressing love in our relationships and sometimes it doesn’t take much effort. What is your love language? What are those small acts that you do for your partner to show them that you love them? Which of the 5 love languages resonates the most with you?
Leave a comment to let us know. Also, feel free to share other examples of love languages.
Thank you for reading and I encourage you to share your love language with the people you love.