This is such a nuance topic because going back to basics can mean different things for different folks.

I grew up in a house where my dad was the breadwinner and he made most, if not all the decisions. As a teen, I hated that because I saw my mom as too submissive. However, looking back, I now understand that my mom felt safe to surrender herself in that way. Now, over 40+ years together, I look at their relationship in admiration. It's not perfect but it works for them.

Do I want that kind of relationship, no, but I do want a relationship with a self-aware man who is truly functioning in his masculine. Someone who will make me feel safe so that I can truly be who I am.